“Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”– 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
“Do not be afraid to give yourself everything you’ve ever wanted in life.”– Frank Lloyd Wright
Self-love and self-care. It’s something all of us ladies love. But if you’re anything like me, sometimes life gets in the way and self-care gets put on the back burner. In high school, I got my nails and my eyebrows done every 2-3 weeks. Even during sports season. But now, I’m lucky if I get my nails and eyebrows done once a month. I never mean for my self-care to get put on the back burner, but being an adult is difficult! I remember calling my mom last year crying about how I don’t understand how I used to get up at 6 am in high school, go straight to sports practice after school, eat dinner, do homework, and get in bed by 11 or 12, and now in college, I want to take a nap at 11 am. It doesn’t make sense! But my mom reminded me that being an adult takes time. Cooking dinner, doing laundry, running errands, all of those things take time. Then add in balancing your job, a relationship with gal pals and your boyfriend, doing homework, self-care, and all that, it’s tough. It’s so easy to put self-care on the back burner. I know I do it a lot. Especially in today’s society. We are told that it’s good to be busy. But we can get so caught up in all these plans and activities that we don’t take time for ourselves. And we’re told that’s what we should be doing. But that’s not the truth. Taking time for yourself is so important and beneficial. Obviously if you don’t have the funds, don’t go out and splurge on yourself, but instead, stay home and pamper yourself that way. Whether you get your nails done, get your eyebrows done, get a massage, go for a walk, take a nap, or put on a face mask while watching a movie, find something that you can do to treat your self. Listen to your body and its needs.
That’s what I did this morning! I looked in the mirror this morning after getting out of bed and was tired of how my eyebrows looked. It had been long enough since I’d gotten them done. It was time to show them some love. So I got in the shower, washed my face, and then headed to the nail salon. While I was there, I got my nails done, too. And let me tell you, I feel so great! The difference a little pampering can do. The past few days I’d been feeling really down, but this morning, I allowed myself to take care of myself. And it’s so rewarding. I know some of you are probably thinking that you can’t get up on a Monday morning and go get your eyebrows done because you work. I completely understand that. The only reason I was able to go this morning is because I didn’t have work and class hasn’t started yet. But there are still ways to treat yourself and take care of yourself. Here are a few things you can do to show your body some love, because after all, it is a temple of the Holy Spirit.
- Wash your face. I recently went to the store and bought a new face wash and holy cow my face is rejoicing! I use it every morning in the shower and every night before I get into bed. It’s so refreshing to my skin. It’s packed with those little beads that exfoliate your skin and it feels amazing. I’m pretty positive it was only $5 at Walmart, but I’m sure many stores have something like it. Washing your face in the morning or at night doesn’t take up too much time, but it’s something that your body will thank you for.
- Go for a walk. Going for a walk gets blood flowing through your veins which removes cortisol, the stress hormone. So in other words, walking relieves stress and anxiety. I’m serious. Walking helps. It removes those negative hormones that can occupy so much space in our body, making us feel down and upset. In a similar way, walking also clears your brain. It can give you clarity on issues you’ve been struggling with. Walking through God’s creation is an incredible way to draw close to Him and listen to what He has to say. Sometimes in the midst of life, it’s so easy to tune out God’s voice. But going for a walk through his nature can draw you back to him. No matter how you chose to walk, whether as exercise or for relaxation, the results will leave your body, and your mind, feeling great. At the end, you’ll feel refreshed and renewed.
- Go to a spa or nail salon. This is probably my favorite self-care method. The feeling of changing your nail polish color, getting your eyebrows done, or getting a massage is empowering. The way my hands look with new nail polish makes me happy. Having freshly waxed eyebrows gives me confidence. And getting a massage helps get out negative toxins, while simultaneously loosening my muscles. Day to day stress can cause your body to tense up and tighten, so getting a massage can help relieve that stress.
Whatever option you chose, and there are plenty more options to be found online, including the list at the top of this blog, whole heartedly commit to loving on yourself at least once a week. If you can find time to love on yourself multiple times a week, then do so. But if not, make it a point to do something at least once a week to honor your body, the temple. If you have the mindset that you’re not the only one who occupies your body, you’re more likely to take care of your body better. It’s like living with someone. If you know that your spouse or roommate will say something about you leaving the dishes in the sink for too long, you’re more likely to put them up. The same goes for your body. So when you’re thinking about putting self-care and self-love on the back burner, remember that you’re not the only one who occupies your body. The Holy Spirit lives in it, too. That might change your view on self-care and self-love.
Society tells us how to be happy, what should make us happy, and what we should want and expect from life. But those things will never fulfill you. You need to get in touch with your own wants, your genuine wants and needs, and pursue those. No one can make you happy like you can. Frank Lloyd Wright’s quote says to not be afraid to give yourself everything you’ve ever wanted. And I completely agree with that. There is absolutely nothing wrong with giving yourself the things you want. In fact, it’s actually healthy to a certain degree. Don’t let anyone or anything tell you what you should want. Instead, pursue yourself. When you realize that your happiness comes from yourself, not society, not anyone else, not anything else, then you can seriously love yourself. And when you truly love yourself, you will be the happiest you’ve ever been. And the people around you will be happy, too! Learning to love yourself starts with listening to your body’s wants and needs and then fulfilling those wants and needs through self-care routines. So girl, before the week is over, ask your body what it needs from you and act on those needs. Your body and mind will thank you for it. Girl, treat yo’ self!!